The Deep Throat Guide
Summary
- Is What deep throating?
- Gagging for It: How Deep Is Deep Throat?
- How to Make Deep Throating Easier?
- How to Properly Deep Throat?
- How to Deep Throat a Large Penis Pain-Free
- The Ultimate Package
- Take Your Time: Listening to Your Body
Maybe you've already learned how to master deep throat and want to refresh your skills. Or perhaps you're less experienced and have questions about it.
Maybe you're wondering:
- How do you deep throat?
- What does deep throating feel like?
Not to worry, we've got you no matter where you are in your deep throat journey — from just the tip to balls deep. This can be a gratifying oral sex act with practice and good communication — whether you're on the giving or receiving end.
Is What deep throating?
First and foremost, there's no pressure to perform this more intense version of a blow job. The term is so common that it can seem like a necessary part of oral sex, but it isn't. Tremendous blow jobs happen with all different techniques.
Deep-throating is considered a BDSM-type act because it involves breath play as the penis enters the trachea. Both the giver and receiver can enjoy the experience, and many people enjoy deep throating who don't consider themselves part of the kink community. But it's crucial to incorporate BDSM safety practices alongside BDSM acts. Deep-throating is no exception to the rule.
Read on for tips and tricks to help you learn how to deepthroat to make the most enjoyable experience for you and your partner.
Gagging for It: How Deep Is Deep Throat?

Deep. Deep-throating implies that the penis has passed through the entire mouth and entered into the throat, making it difficult to breathe and easy to gag. Of course, every penis is unique — so you may or may not be able to fit the whole thing inside your mouth.
It also isn't for everyone. Gag-reflex sensitivity varies greatly, and 10-15% of the population has a hypersensitive reflex. Even people with more ordinary gag reflexes can be pushed too far. When filming deepthroat pornography, stars need to be mindful of the risk of vomiting.
With a bit of practice and patience, people with a gag reflex can learn how to deep throat and enjoy this oral sex act.
How to Make Deep Throating Easier?
Sword-swallowers don't start with the saber — at least, we don't think they do.
- To work up to deep throating, you may be more comfortable practicing on something smaller and less sensitive than your partner's sword.
- Experts suggest working up to the real thing. You can start with your finger and train up to larger phallic objects. (Stay away from bananas, which can break off and choke you.)
- The throat-training technique is pretty simple. Reach your finger or a similarly shaped object towards the back of your throat until you feel your gag reflex begin to set in. Hold the finger there, slowly breathing through the urge to gag. You can incorporate some added pressure or thrusting motion as you get more comfortable.
- Level up with realistic dildos — the closest thing to a penis in feel and shape. There's a range available, but one with a suction base will give you the best chance to try out various angles and positions.
- Perfect for deepthroat beginners. This list of adult toys reach 4.5 inches deep, so it leaves you with some room to grow. But with a flesh-like silicone surface and a 1.25-inch perimeter, it'll still give you more than enough to get going with your deepthroat masterclass.
Get a little deeper with Adam's True Feel Cock Flesh from the same company. Not only does it measure seven inches — or 5.5 insertable inches — it ends in a testicle-shaped base. This bottom bulb will allow you to practice more advanced techniques such as licking their balls while you hold them steady in your throat.
For the ultimate dildo, look no further than Adam's Warm Rotate Power Boost. With a 1.73-inch width, this will help you practice for a vast girth. After your training session is done, you can reward yourself with a turn on this swirling, vibrating dildo.
How to Properly Deep Throat?
If you're new to either the sex act or the partner, the receiver likely will feel safer and happier taking control of the session. Most deepthroat blowjobs follow the same general format:
- Get the penis slick with lubricant and saliva.
- Slowly take more and more of it into your mouth, breathing through your nose.
- When your partner is fully inserted, you can let them thrust gently back and forth.
Certain positions make it easier to deepthroat. You want to create a straight line from your mouth to your throat. Different people swear by different set-ups, but these are some of the most commonly recommended:
- On your knees
- On your side with your partner on their back
- On your back with your legs elevated
- On your back with your head hanging off the bed
As you become more confident in the act, you can incorporate more advanced techniques. Try extending your tongue to lick your partner's balls or humming while they're in your throat. If you have proper command over your gag reflex, you can even swallow or spasm around your penis.
How to Deep Throat a Large Penis Pain-Free
First of all, "large" is a relative term. Second, sometimes we all need a little help. The right tools can help you and your partner get off.
Deep throat spray
If you've ever wondered, "Does deep throat spray work?", the answer is yes.
People interested in trying deep-throating may have some concerns, which is normal.
Some of the biggest worries about deep throating are:
- Can deep throat cause sore throat?
- Can deep throat make you gag or choke?
The good news is that throat-numbing spray can help with both.
Desensitizing Oral Sex Spray
The trigger spray mists the back of your throat with a mint-flavored formula that includes benzocaine. It gently desensitizes your throat, making it easier to take your partner deeper for longer.
Goodhead Deep Throat Spray
Goodhead's delicious throat desensitizer helps reduce gagging and discomfort. It also comes in fun flavors such as Wild Cherry and Cotton Candy.
Are you heading out for the night? No problem, this spray comes in a cute to-go size you can throw into a pocket or purse.
Deep throat gel
Deep throating can be brutal — pun intended — but with the help of a gel, it can be less daunting. Spread it on your partner's penis, and suck it slowly into your throat. The sweet taste and desensitizing effect make it easier and more pleasurable for you both.
Oralicious's oral sex cream comes in tasty flavors like Raspberry Parfait and Pina Colada. The taste will encourage you to devour your lover in the best way possible.
The Ultimate Package
Can't decide on what would be best? The Goodhead Fundamentals Kit has all your bases covered – and lets you try out a few products so you can find your favorite. It includes:
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Sweet Strawberry-flavored Oral Delight Gel for added taste and lubrication.
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Watermelon-flavored Tingle Drops for added sensation.
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Oral Sex Mints for decreased gag sensitivity.
- Helping Head Stroker for variety and added penis coverage
The kit has everything you need for serious playtime
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Take Your Time: Listening to Your Body
Deep throating should be pleasurable for both the giver and the receiver. Start slow, practice, and never try to force anything.
As in all sex, communication is vital. Talk to your partner beforehand about boundaries and expectations.
And have fun with it! Good oral sex — of any kind — should be enjoyable for all parties involved.
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Goodhead Fundamentals Kit. Peachwood.