P-Spot Orgasm and How to Use a Prostate Massager?

If your masturbation routine has been focused exclusively on your penis and testicles, then you’re missing out on one of the most intensely pleasurable parts of the male body: the prostate, a.k.a. the p-spot.
Just as the g-spot offers unbeatable pleasure for females, so too does the p-spot offer unbelievable stimulation for cisgender males and those assigned the male gender at birth.

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What Is the Prostate?

Approximately the size of the walnut, the prostate is a small gland between the penis and the rectum. The point of the prostate is to create fluid to nourish and protect sperm.

Where Is the Prostate Located?

The prostate is located about two inches inside your rectum, toward the penis. You can also stimulate your prostate externally by pressing the outer region between your anus and your penis, in an area known as the perineum.

What Does the Prostate Feel Like?

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The more turned on you are, the more the prostate swells, making it larger and easier to locate.

Externally, pressing on your prostate makes you feel like you need to pee. From this angle, you may not be able to directly feel the prostate — but you can certainly feel the sensation of massaging it.

If you enter through the backdoor, it’s much easier to feel your prostate. Reach along the front wall of the rectal lining. Your prostate will feel different from the surrounding area, like a little fleshy ball.

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What Is a Prostate Massage?

A prostate massage is when you intentionally stimulate your prostate for pleasure. You can either use your hand for a prostate massage or you can learn how to use a prostate massager for enhanced pleasure.

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Of course, you can use your fingers — but a prostate massager is not only more efficient but can help you achieve the ultimate orgasm.

Can You Orgasm from a Prostate Massage?

It can take some practice to figure out how to massage your prostate for an orgasm — but once you have the technique down, you can create some of the most pleasurable orgasms of your life.

How Do You Massage Your Prostate?

Massaging your prostate is all about what feels good to you and can be highly individual. Prostates can be massaged both externally from the perineum, and internally through the rectum.

How to Massage Prostate Externally?

For many men, it takes a little while to build up to inserting anything into the rectum.

  1. To stimulate the prostate from the outside, start at the base of your penis and move backward along your perineum. This space should be toward the shaft of your penis and then soften as you move back. You can even use a prostate massager against your perineum for a more intense external massage.

How to Massage Prostate Internally?

  1. It’s usually best to start with a finger before graduating to a prostate massager. Most prostates respond well to an on-off motion, which is one reason vibrating prostate massagers can have such a delightfully stimulating effect.

If you’re going to be using your hand, put on a glove to prevent fecal matter from getting under your nails. And whether you choose to use your hand, a massager, or a combination of both, make sure you use plenty of lube!

Do Prostate Massagers Work?

Prostate massagers are specially designed to help you get the best angle massage for your prostate, and some offer different vibrations or textures to make your prostate massage exquisite.

How to Insert Prostate Massagers?

Prostate massagers are curved to help you reach your prostate. If you're wondering how to properly use a prostate massager, the most important step is to use a liberal amount of lube and go slow as you insert the massager into your rectum. The curved part of the prostate should curve toward the penis to best stimulate your prostate.

Is Prostate Massage Good for Your Health?

Now that you know how to use a prostate massager, you may wonder if prostate massage is good for your health. Yes! A prostate massage can have some really good benefits for your health.

Studies suggest that if you’re trouble peeing, massaging your prostate and emptying the fluid in your prostate can help. Some men who struggle with erectile dysfunction also have an easier time ejaculating when they include prostate massage as part of their sexual routine. There’s also some evidence to suggest that ejaculating more often can reduce your risks of developing prostate cancer. If a prostate massage helps you ejaculate, that’s a great reason to give it a go.

What Does a Prostate Massage Feel Like?

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Some men have compared a prostate massage to the feeling of waves cascading through the body. Others say it causes a super localized orgasm.

Men who manage to stick with prostate massages long enough to achieve orgasm tend to agree that the orgasm is very different from an orgasm achieved just by stimulating the penis and that a prostate orgasm is more intense.

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How Often Can You Massage Your Prostate?

You can massage your prostate as often as it feels good to do so. The biggest risk factor to prostate massages comes from being too rigorous or not preparing your anus ahead of time. As long as you’re using enough lube and stopping if anything starts to feel uncomfortable, have fun!

What Are the Best Positions When Using a Prostate Massager?

The best positions for using a prostate massager allow you to comfortably reach your anus:

  • Lying on your back with your legs up. Sticking a pillow under your lower back can make this position more comfortable and give you a better angle.

  • Lying on your stomach. This position is best when used with a partner. If you’re trying this position solo, consider tucking your knees beneath you and pressing your forehead on the bed to elevate your rear end.

  • On Your Side with One Leg Up. This is a great solo position. You can either move your outer leg up and prop it on the wall or — if you’re flexible — you can press your foot against the mattress near your belly, yoga-style.

What Is the Best Lube for Your Prostate Massager?

The best lube for your prostate massager depends partially on the material of your massager. If you have a silicone sex toy, avoid silicone lubricants.

It’s also important to remember that the anus doesn’t self-lubricate and is extremely sensitive. For this reason, you only want to use high-quality lubricants that are designed for anal play. Water-based lubricants, like our Pjur Back Door Silicone Anal Lubricant 3.4oz, are your best bet.

What Is Prostate Milking?

Prostate milking means massaging your prostate until liquid comes out. The liquid that comes out isn’t sperm — unless you’re stroking your penis at the same time, in which case you might get a mix.

It’s a thick, creamy liquid that looks a little like milk — hence the name! — and is the same liquid your prostate makes to protect your sperm regularly.

How to Clean Your Prostate Massager?

Always clean your prostate massager both before and after you use it. Use warm water and either a gentle soap or a designated sex toy cleanser — like Refresh Toy Cleaner — and be sure to allow your toy to dry completely before storing it.


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