Are you looking to spice things up in the bedroom? Exploring BDSM and bondage is a great way to do that. BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. It often involves power exchange, in which one playmate takes a traditional role, and the other person is more obedient or submissive. BDSM can be strict and painful, or it can be sweet and sensual. There is no one right way to do it!

BDSM is a massive umbrella that encompasses many activities, including but not limited to:

• Bondage
• Spanking
• Corporal punishment
• Teasing & orgasm denial
• Chastity
• Forced orgasms
• Cock and ball torture (CBT)
• Cuckolding
• Humiliation
• Electroplay
• Foot worship
• Body worship
• Sensation play
• Sensory deprivation
• Mummification
• Medical play
• Pegging and strap-on play
• Pet play
• Watersports
• Tickling
• Wax play

Many of these activities require fun bondage sex toys. Worried about discretion and don't want to go to a sex shop? You can easily buy BDSM toys online. When you order from Peachwood, your toys come in discreet packaging labeled PW Products.

Top 3 Best BDSM Toys for Beginners

When you're just starting with BDSM, there are many toy choices out there. Beginners may benefit most from trying kits designed for experimentation. Think soft materials, easy-to-use mechanisms, and comfortable positions when looking for beginner BDSM toys.

1. Fetish Fantasy Series Beginner's Bondage Set - Black

This set comes with everything you need to explore bondage for the first time with someone special. It has four comfortable velvet cuffs (two for the wrists and two for the ankles). Each cuff has a nylon tie that you can use to attach your lover to the bed or another piece of furniture. 

It also comes with a feather tickler to make them squirm and a satin blindfold to keep them guessing. This set is very accessible and newbie-friendly. Get it or pair it with a ball gag for that classic "tied up" look.

2. Aande Fetish Dreams Beginner Bondage Set

This is another set that is sure to make for a memorable evening. It comes with padded vegan leather wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs. They are diamond-stitched for style and comfort. It has a matching blindfold and a sexy paddle to spank your sweetheart into submission. 

It also comes with a cute little finger vibrator to tease them. The buckles and rivets on this set are made from high-quality metal, and the wrist cuffs come with a connector.

3. Fetish Fantasy Series Universal Wrist & Ankle Cuffs - Black/Silver

This sweet set has a pair of velcro wrist cuffs attached with a chain plus a blindfold. It has endless possibilities and is perfect for beginners because it is so easy to use. The cuffs are made of neoprene, a comfortable material that can be worn for a long night of play. 

Since the set is so adjustable, it can be used on either the wrists or ankles. There is enough slack in the chain that you can use it to hook your lover to the bed or have them serve you drinks while chained up.

4. Aande Hog Tie

A hogtie is a classic bondage position where the submissive person is on their stomach with their hands and legs connected behind their back. It puts them in a perfectly helpless state of bondage. 

This hogtie kit allows you to experiment with this position even if you are not a bondage expert. It comes with two wrist cuffs and two ankle cuffs, plus a particular connector piece that allows you to turn it into a hogtie position. It is made of faux leather and is lined with fake fur for comfort.

Intermediate Bondage Sex Toys

Once you are a bit experienced with bondage, it's time to add some accessories to make your collection more versatile.

1. Fetish Fantasy Series Passion Bondage Kit - Black

This kit will take your bedroom bondage to the next level. It has two wrist cuffs and two ankle cuffs that are made from comfortable nylon. Each cuff comes with a versatile nylon tether. They can be attached for a handcuff style situation or used with the longer piece to tie your sweetie to a piece of furniture. It also comes with a ball gag, so your lover can't make a peep while you tease and tantalize them.

2. Fetish Fantasy Series Ball Gag Training System - Black

Sometimes you want a little peace. Train your submissive darling to take bigger and bigger gags with this fun toy. It comes with three different sizes of "Wiffle ball" style gags. Each trick has holes in it to make breathing easy. Some people also enjoy the drooling effect that these gags bring. This item also has an adjustable vinyl strap to fit most head sizes.

Safety tip: When gagging your lover, they won't be able to say the safeword. Instead, please give them a brightly colored cloth to hold. If they drop the fabric, that is the equivalent of saying the safe word.

3. Aande Fetish Dreams Intermediate Bondage

The Aande Fetish Dreams bondage set comes with two ankle cuffs, two wrist cuffs, a collar, a leash, a paddle, and a blindfold. All the items are made with quilted faux leather.

Advanced Bondage Toys

Those playing with BDSM for a while might find these toys can bring their kinky moments to the next level. This category includes more extreme BDSM toys.

1. Aande Fetish Dreams Advanced Bondage Set

This is a complete kit for all of your bondage desires. It comes with everything you need to make someone completely helpless and at your mercy in the bedroom. It includes two wrist cuffs, two ankle cuffs, a collar and leash, a cross buckle for hogties, a paddle, a ball gag, and a blindfold. It is all designed with quilted vegan leather, so your sub will be comfortable and cute. It's a helpful set that leaves many possibilities for positions and plays.

2. Fetish Fantasy Series Fantasy Swing Stand - Black

Have you ever fantasized about using a sex swing? Now is your chance! This sex swing comes with its stand to quickly put it up or take it down in your house in 10 minutes or less. A sex swing can give you greater leverage and help you develop some new and exciting positions. 

This stand has several bondage attachments, and you can use it with or without restraints. It can hold up to 400 pounds and has heavy-duty bars to hold onto for new and unique sexual positions. This is quite a luxury BDSM toy due to its versatility.

3. Fetish Fantasy Series Ultimate Bed Restraint System - Black

This system uses something you already have in your house to make a specific bondage scenario. It allows you to use your bed to hold down your lover in various positions. It works with two large straps that go around the head and foot of your bed. 

Attach the included wrist and ankle cuffs set to the straps, and have fun! It comes with 12 D rings for endless options and ropes to attach the cuffs to the straps.

4. Fetish Fantasy Series Deluxe Shock Therapy Travel Kit - Black/Silver/White

Are you feeling electric? This kit will bring some unique stimulation to your playtime adventures. It comes with a small control box with an easy-to-read LCD screen and several unique ways to apply electricity. 

It has four adhesive pads with wires, two electric nipple clamps, a "pleasure probe" for anal or vaginal explorations, and an electrified cock cage. The kit also includes electro gel that is perfect for lubricating these electrifying devices for maximum conductivity. This is sure to bring a shocking amount of pleasure to your playmate.

5. Fetish Fantasy Series Fantasy Bondage Swing - White

This bondage swing allows you to experience new sexual positions with or without bondage cuffs. The swinging motion gives you more momentum for sexual acts. It comes with everything you need to attach to the ceiling safely. The unique feature about this sex swing is that it has D rings in strategic places to give you the flexibility to try any position you can imagine!

BDSM Anal Toys

Tying someone up and then incorporating butt play can be a fantastic experience. Taking control of someone's booty is a beautiful way to experience power exchange. 

1. Rouge Anal Speculum Stainless Steel

Ready to play doctor and have a peek inside? Use this stainless steel speculum to turn your bedroom into a doctor's office. Use plenty of lube to open up your sweetheart and leave them vulnerable and exposed to whatever pleasures you have in store. For more intense play, gently cool it by running it under cold water or warm it up with some hot water.

2. Rouge Anal Hook In Bag

An anal hook is a toy that can further immobilize your partner in their bondage. Please insert it into the booty and tie the end to the rest of their bondage. You can incorporate it into some significant bondage positions like a hogtie, doggy position, etc. It gives the wearer a sexy sense of fullness that increases every time they struggle against their bondage.

3. Quintessence Beaded Anal Slider

This is the perfect toy for someone to open up their backdoor with slick Glass. It has increasingly large bulbs plus a ring handle for easy retrieval. This toy is completely waterproof and made from body-safe and fracture-resistant Glass. Glass is extra fun for anal exploration because you can heat it up or cool it off.

BDSM Safety Tips

Some BDSM activities come with some risks. If you're diving into BDSM for the first time, research your interest to discover any hazards to avoid. Here are some essential safety tips for everyday BDSM activities:

• Never leave someone unattended in bondage.
• Always have a pair of safety scissors nearby when tying someone up.
• Never do impact play on someone's joints, spine, or kidney areas. The safest space for impact play is the buttocks.
• Don't do electricity play on someone who has a pacemaker or other electronic medical device inside their body.
• Don't do BDSM play when you are highly intoxicated. If you are too drunk to drive, you should not engage in BDSM activities.
• Always play with a safe word. This is a particular word that you and your partner will choose. The submissive person should say the safeword if something is wrong in the scene and they need a break. A standard safe word system is based on traffic lights. Red means stop, and yellow means slow down. Some people prefer to use a random word like "spaghetti," for example.
• When someone is tied up, check-in with them frequently to make sure they are doing OK. It can be easy to become lightheaded or disoriented in bondage. If someone feels faint, release them immediately.
• Play on soft surfaces where injuries are less likely to occur.
• When doing anal play, only use toys with a flared base. 
• Learn basic CPR and first aid.
• Use massage candles for wax play. The wax is designed to heat to an appropriate temperature for the skin.
• Bondage toys for couples are not intended to be used alone. If you do try self-bondage, let someone know what you're up to, just in case things don't go as planned.

What Types of BDSM Toys Are There?

Since BDSM is such a broad umbrella, there is an unending list of potential toys. Many things you probably already have in your house could be fetish toys. A wooden spoon from your kitchen may be great for spanking someone. Your necktie may make a great blindfold. 

However, official BDSM toys may be safer and easier to use than "pervertible," a term for home objects you can quickly turn into sex toys. Here is just an essential list of toys you might come across in your kinky research:

• Blindfolds
• Collars
• Leashes
• Cuffs
• Sensation toys
• Strap ons
• Ball stretchers
• Cock cages
• Rope
• Bondage tape
• Paddles, canes, and crops
• Gags
• Medical play devices
• Electroplay toys
• Nipple clamps
• Sex Machines
• Sex swings
• Spreader bars

Here are some of our favorites that you can find through Peachwood.

Who Can Use BDSM Sex Toys?

Bondage and BDSM toys are for everyone! People of any gender can use them. Some couples love to switch roles, with each partner taking their turn being on top. Other teams have a more set dynamic with one person remaining in charge all of the time. Discuss your limits, turn-ons, and boundaries with your partner before engaging in BDSM play.

Once you do, explore our whole realm of high-quality BDSM toys at Peachwood. You will find a wide selection of options suitable for many different types of fantasies. We've got BDSM toys for beginners and advanced users. Explore with your first pair of bondage cuffs, or add something new to your extensive and kinky collection. 

SOURCES:

What Is BDSM Sex? (June 2021). WebMD.

BDSM Safety 101 — A Primer. (November 2020). Tess Dagger.

BDSM SAFETY AND COMMON SENSE GUIDELINES. Xeromag.