May I Have Another? What Is Flogging In Sex?

Flogging is the act of whipping someone with a whip that has many different leather strands at the end. These whips are called floggers. Floggers are unique because they increase the surface area of the whip's sensation on the skin. Floggers can also be used to scintillate, tickle and tease your partner.

It originally began as a punishment, and it still is in some places of the world. However, flogging has a special place in the BDSM world. We can trace back the roots of flogging for sexual pleasure to the beginnings of culture. Many ancient civilizations have documented flogging or being whipped to explore the joy within pain, including Mesopotamia, Greece, India, Japan, and others. 

Today, flogging is widely embraced. Read along if you'd like to know more about what flogging is in sex, how to use flogging sex toys, and more! 

What is Flogging?

Flogging describes one person using a flogger on another person in a sexual or nonsexual context. 

How Does Flogging Tie Into Sex?

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So much about BDSM is about power. After all, the acronym does stand for bondage, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism(the "S" stands for both submission and sadism). Flogging fits right into this theme of power. 

There is no way that flogging's ancient roots as punishment from an authority figure do not echo into the present. The aspect of punshiment and pain can make both the dominant person who is flogging and the submissive person who is being flogged get erotically charged during the act. 

Why Do Individuals Introduce Flogging Into Sex?

There is so much debate about why people crave pain mixed in with their pleasure. Many poets, authors, philosophers, social scientists, and more have speculated why people love to get spanked throughout history. 

Some people say that it is a sickness, and some assume it is related to one's past or results from trauma. Many individuals believe that these desires do not need to be understood, and people should be allowed to flog or be flogged in peace. 

A 2020 study conducted through internet discussion forums and surveys used the testimonials of kink enthusiasts to try and figure out why people participated in sexual masochism or submission. This study found that the most common reasons people engage in activities like flogging were:

  • An enjoyment of feeling pain
  • The feeling of relinquishing power
  • Getting to an altered state of consciousness
  • Relaxation during the activity
  • A repetition of the past

Many of these people did have some childhood memory linked to their adult sexual preferences. This could range from a very sensual memory of leather or a cowboy game that stands out for them. However, the study did not conclusively find that these memories lead to having a kink. 

Instead, the study states that people who participate in BDSM regularly have a higher sex drive than those who do not. They also found that people who have kinks generally have a more fluid sexual identity and set of preferences. 

So while we still do not have an answer for why, psychologically, people have kinks, we know what the draws are and what types of people will most enjoy flogging. 

What Does It Feel Like To Be Flogged In Sex?

Why Do Individuals Introduce Flogging Into Sex

Flogging is usually thought to be a pretty intense source of painful pleasure. However, any sub/dom situation should accommodate what both partners are comfortable with. 

Floggers are also a very versatile tool. Depending on what they are made of and how they are used, you can generate a very intense to very mild sensation in the submissive person's body. This is great not only for versatility but also to tease and surprise the submissive person. 

Emotionally, being flogged will unleash a strong flow of endorphins which will, in turn, make you feel more sensitive and aroused during your sexual activities. Some people also experience peace, calm, and happiness after getting flogged. You will have to try it out to see what else happens for you. 

What Are Floggers Made Of?

Perhaps a better question would be, "what aren't floggers made of?" There are floggers out there that are made for every level of BDSM practitioners. 

You can get a leather flogger like this one or use this suede flogger. Remember that the more complex the material, the more it will impact the submissive. 

What Are the Different Types of Floggers?

In addition to purchasing floggers of different materials, the specs of a flogger can make a big difference in your flogging experience. 

The best way to categorize floggers is by the length and thickness of each strand. You can find floggers that have shorter, stouter strands at the end, like the Rouge Flogger. Or, you can look for more extended and thinner floggers, like the Leather Sprial Flog

How To Determine What The Best Flogger for You

If you are interested in flogging or being flogged, you should talk to the partner with whom you want to do that. Together, you can discuss what you wish the flogging scene to look like before it happens. Based on your mutual preferences, experiences, and comfortability, you should be able to determine what kind of flogger would be best. 

The longer stranded, the less hefty floggers are better for beginners because the area of sensation will be lessened, and the weight of the flogger will be lighter. This will result in a less intense flogging experience designed for people who aren't looking for the highest level of sensation. 

Floggers that are more chunky and heavy with a lessened radius of sensation are meant for people who have been flogged before. These floggers are for people who want to feel the flogging experience deeply. 

What Is the Best Type of Flogger for Beginners?

As you may be able to guess, the First Time Flogger by Peachwood is an ideal flogger for a beginner. It is long and lean enough to provide quite a bit of sensation but not push you to your limit every time you use it. 

What Are Options for Advanced Floggers

This suede flogger would be perfect for a more experienced individual looking to bring a lot of sensation to their play sessions. Its weight and heft are specifically designed to produce maximum success to a particular area. 

Flogging Techniques

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If you or your partner are starting, make sure to start slow. Also, go for the fatty part of the butt or the thighs. Make sure that those two spots feel good and everyone is enjoying themselves. Then you can move on to the genitals or the breasts. 

Regarding how you might flog someone, you can either do single hits or flogs that lead into each other. And don't forget about dragging the flogger across your partner's skin! 

Whichever type of flogger or technique you and your partner choose, always make sure to communicate about it before, during, and after. Communication is truly the best technique when it comes to flogging. 

Safety Items to Consider 

If you are engaging in flogging, you need to have conversations beforehand with the partners you choose to do it with. This is an essential safety item to consider. Both partners should have safe words; that way, if any partner is in pain or needs to stop the scene, that can safely and quickly happen. 

Additionally, some types of flogging can be pretty intense. Ensure you take care of the impacted parts of your body by icing them or practicing whatever aftercare you need. 

Pleasure, pain, floggers; you can have it all. You can also not have to explain why you want it all. Whether we like it or not, most people enjoy their pleasure with a bit of pain. Some may prefer more pain or more fun than others. 

Flogging is an exciting and intense step into this delicate line of pleasure/pain. If you want to take your play to the next level, you should invest in a flogger today. 

Here are some of the best floggers that can fit your need, whatever they are!


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